"Best" Birth

I get asked more often than you might think what kinds of births I support.  What my favorite kind to attend are, or even if I leave when things don’t go the way they were planned.  This breaks my heart.  Every birth is unique.  The needs of every laboring mother are unique.  No birth looks the same and the best birth possible looks different for every woman!  And I don’t leave.​ 

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As your doula, my role is to support you in YOUR choices, not to make sure you make the choices I think you should.  For that matter, it’s pretty rare that I even have an opinion. This is your day, your experience.  I am not in your body.   Yes, there are benefits to a natural birth but there are very valid reasons (including just desire) for that not to be your goal.  My goal for all is not that everyone would have a “natural birth,” but that everyone would make their choices from a place of confidence.  

I look back on all the families I’ve had the privilege of working with and each one has a special place in my heart.  The long births, the fast ones, the ones that ended in surgery.  Every mother was amazing.  Every father stepped up.  It’s such a joy and privilege to be part of that.  I would truly not be able to choose a favorite.  

No matter if your plan is all natural, an epidural, or even a planned csection, (and certainly when things don’t go quite how you plan) doula support can have a role and enhance your experience.  My hope for every woman is that they are able to look back on their birth, be confident in their decisions and be at peace.  That’s the best birth.